Striking a balance, revisited
Back in March I asked the question "is it possible to be too nice?". While I still don't know the answer to that question, I can tell you is that being "too nice" makes it a lot easier to get hurt. I learned this the hard way today, and it hurt more than I could have possibly imagined.
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Yo Jeff,
I've felt similarly. I'm telling ya, it's less about being 'too nice' and more about having healthy boundaries. Check out the 'Boundaries' series of books by Cloud, or 'Safe People', both really great.
Yeah, sometimes life can really bite. And you wonder why it seems that the "bad" people NEVER get what, we think, they deserve. And, so, you start to wonder if it's worth it to be nice, or if maybe you should turn into a mean person. There really isn't such as thing as being too nice. Just remember that with the sweet comes the sour. And there are people out there who will take advantage of your nicer nature. Or, they deliberately strike out at your sensitivity hoping to have power over you. Pain, be it emotional or physical, subsides. And when I think back to it, most of the time, I'll gladly feel the sting of the sour so I can float in the sweet.
*smiling sadly* I'm sorry you were hurt. And I know you feel that you have to get over it quickly, but don't push yourself too hard, and don't try to squash it. You're one of the good guys, remember that, mmmm'kay?